Valentines Day is coming quickly! I am not focused on Sunday, but have it perched in the back of my mind. I feel like there has been so much going on in the life of my husband and I that a flowery day in February need not be put on such a pedestal as to take over what is important in our daily lives.
Such as, our working together with grace and love.
For example, our bathroom "remodel", seems to be all consuming.
It is coming along well, but mistakes have been made.
Like my being certain that I could make that warped piece of car-siding work. which it did not. and I had already glued it. and partially nailed it. sigh.
Or my husband accidentally cutting the red wire on the in floor heating mat while cleaning up the floor tiles before grouted. Pulling up tiles were necessary. sigh.
Neither of us got upset at the other when these things happened. We just helped one another with the process of making things right.
That is for us, in part, what real love is. Working together, not getting mad over the small things in life and laughing with each other....a lot.
We do not get upset if each of us is interested in different things.
For example (again, or would that be redundant?) my hubby likes those detective style TV shows and I do not. We just watch different televisions in our house. No big deal, when the shows are done, we come together to watch what we do like - life is good, and when each of us watch the differing shows, when one falls asleep, the snoring does not interrupt the climactic choice of the perfect wedding dress! (I love you honey!!)
We pray together each night. faithfully. Our love of the Lord and surrender to Him is the biggest part of our love relationship and the most important.
We hug, a lot. We hold each other's hand, talk, and have dinner together.
These small things may not seem like a big deal, but going without them makes such a chasm in a marriage that some cannot bring that breach back together.
We have made it a priority to not allow ourselves to let that chasm even start.
Do we do thing without each other? Yes, yes we do. I do things with my best girlfriends, my hubby plays music with his friends. My hubby does Daddy - Daughter date nights, I have my photography business that takes me away at times.
Life is our Valentine's Day. Will we celebrate the 14th? Yes, but in a small way like a card or candy or something homemade.
Which brings me to this! Some wonderful homemade items that I have found. Here are a couple that are incredibly easy and are without sugar or artificial sweeteners!
Like this Quinoa Bark from Half Baked Harvest (which is in my refrigerator right now)
Or these No Bake Chocolate Oatmeal Fudge Bars from Chocolate Covered Kate Oh Yum!!!!!!
What will you be making or giving this Valentine's Day?
p.s. I think these are just the sweetest gifts to give: "Bee" my "Honey" on Valentine's Day. From Joanna Gaines
First off, to get understanding right away, let me ask you this: have you ever been falling asleep and reach that point where you are still "consciously aware" of what is going on around you but are unable to rouse yourself to movement or speech? i.e. you are napping on the sofa and hear the children fighting but cannot speak or move to stop them...because you are asleep, or supposed to be?
OK, ground work laid.
That was me, last night....for a couple of hours. I could literally hear myself moaning and whimpering but could do nothing about it. I could not wake myself enough to stop. I know this to be true as I finally did wake up fully at 3:30 am and got out of bed to talk to my sweet hubby (who was preparing for a grueling day of work) and he had sadly been laying awake listening to me. My heart aches for him. That he lost sleep over me.
You see, although not all nights (less than more) are like this, there are those nights and actually days in which the pain can be this strong. Medicines are good at taming the beast but not always fully effective. I am not complaining as I know that I have many more good days, active wonderful days in which I fully enjoy life, my family and can work, serve and shop without feeling frustrated.
They call Fibromyalgia the "Silent Disease" as those who suffer from it look to be without any issues. We do not look diseased in our outward flesh...tired yes, but don't we all have those days!
I put these words to cyber-paper not to draw attention to me, on the contrary, my goal is to bring awareness to this relentless affliction that so many out there suffer from and for those who have but do not have an official diagnosis. Please know that there is help, there are those who will listen and there ARE ways to help yourself cope and feel better!
I find that submerging myself in things that truly bring me joy is the best medicine. Keeping active, making myself get up in the morning, doing what I need to do and then what I want to do can make days much better. But I also know that there are days when I need to just sit. Relax. Take it easy. I cannot do it all like I used too.
And I keep this little saying in my head: It is a Great day to HAVE a Great day!
Some days are just plain ugly outside. But I know that it does not have to be that way inside!
What makes your gloom get kicked to the curb?
Music - that is my go too....loud and proud!
Reading - I love to read but just have not had the time for extra books as of late. (I do have one on my night stand beckoning me to slow down and breath)
Cleaning - who does that! Seriously, did I just ask that?
Creating - yes please!
A link or two for your Tuesday gloom and creative hearts.
Engineer Prints: To Die For!
Key Lime Cake! (I think I can make it sugar free for my sweet hubby!) : Yum!
Valentines Desserts: 15 Of Them!
I hope you have an AMAZING gloomy day full of joy!
Paula
Life has been, ahem, crazy.
With the addition of the In-Law Suite to our home, which allowed my Mom to move in, and the work that we needed to do to our "side" of the house due to the addition - we have been, shall I say, working what feels like 24/7.
Mom fell in November and broke her hip (can we all be overwhelmingly grateful for her being where she now is!)....it was a clean break allowing for a relatively easy surgery and partial replacement. Mom moved from the hospital into a rehab facility where she stayed for a mere two weeks and then back home with us! Amazing how quickly she pushed through it!
My hubby is working more hours at work than one should be, but he has no choice in the matter and we will power through the next 3 weeks and be grateful for the extra money it affords us.
I am finding it quite difficult to fall into my soft spot of DIY work. Sigh. I love and long to work on projects that challenge me. There seems to be such an abundance of "normal, has to be done to survive" work at this point that I find myself simply longing to be creative and unable to do so.
But I do not see creative to be too far in my future and my mind swirls with anticipation at the ideas that I have!
I cannot promise at this point how often I will be posting in the early 2016 year, I desire to write often, but do need to sleep at some point, so I refuse to lock myself into a schedule. I will do my best at life, at work, at DIY'ing and most importantly with God.
I ask grace from you all and know that if you have any questions for me, please feel free to ask.
Paula
p.s. My photography business has been quite busy recently (throwing that into an already packed schedule) and I will be posting some of the pictures here on the blog...here is one taken on my Iphone (why is it that photographers NEVER have their good cameras when they really need them!) that i found to be just a remarkable site! I did not actually count, but I know there had to be at least 150 ice-cycles!!
